NOTE: This is a reprint of a post from the Kris Vallotton's website. Kris is a member on staff at Bethel Church in Redding, California. I share his posts here because I am always amazed at the insights the Lord gives him.
How do we practically build a healthy family? In this podcast, I share stories and life lessons that taught me how to walk in the fullness of covenant and allow trials to strengthen our connections. I hope this teaching will empower you to count it all joy in suffering and know that the Lord can work out anything for our good!

How do you create a happy marriage? Danny Silk and I met with our city counsel members a few years back and asked them, “What is the root cause of most of the problems you face in our city.” Their response? “Fatherlessness.”

I believe the moral values of our nations is directly correlated to the fact that people don’t know how to do family. So, I want to talk a little about family, family values, core values, and how to have a happy marriage.

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others,”
Philippians 2:3-4.

My son, Jason Vallotton, says, “I’ve often had a problem bigger than me, but I’ve never had a problem bigger than my family.

Here are some values to help you strengthen your family:

  1. Put your spouse first – you come into marriage to lay down your life. I like to say, marriage is a death march to a life camp. It is not your spouses responsibility to make you happy.
  2. Communication – create a sage place to listen and be heard.
  3. Love looks like something – love your person the way they can receive it instead of how you would receive it.


Philippians 2:3-4, James 1:2-4, Ephesians 5:21-23, Proverbs 18:2, James 3:13-18, Proverbs 15:1


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